
(above is a painting of Bruce R. McConkie, one of my ancestors , hanging in the New LDS Conference Center)
OK GURLS and BOIS! Now for the SECOND ARTICLE OF FAITH:
2. We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam's transgression.
This seems a little harsh and real as we all know of consequence...and as for "ADAMS" Transgressions, that will be covered at the end along with scripture.
YES GURLZ...men means humanity...but for my purpose here I will use the male version, since that is what I am...just a sec...ok STILL AM...LOL!
Personally, I believe there are consequences for everything...good/bad right/wrong ying/yang...etc You get what you earn (deserve). If you decide to go against what the good book "bible" and other religious texts observed in our society today...it's considered a "sin". However, I mesh this with societal behavour ettiquette of the day. SINCE the bible is only one text of belief structure, now being "learn-ed" brothers and sisters, we live in a new time, a new age of information. We are able to decide for ourselves, what works and what doesn't.
FOR ME, a SIN is be defined as an act that does not work for me and has a consequence that negatively affects my life and may negatively affect those around me and/or their perception/trust/faith in me. HOWEVER, what is a SIN for me, may not be a sin for someone else and vise versa. We live in an age where many peoples with varying cultural attachments co-habitate with each other. SINS for me are based on belief structure and how fervently that is practiced on a daily basis. It is a very personal thing; not to be taken lightly because it also affects the psychological well-being, how "normal" is percieved, and how "self" fits into society as a whole.
I'll give one detailed example:
I accept ME as a sexual being that is attracted to men. Though I've had my times of being very sexually active, during those moments in my life I've also made sure I get tested for STD's and defined for me what is acceptable sexual behavour. I've also discussed my sexual practices with my Primary Care Physician(PCP), who thankfully is GAY; sought out a gay physician and am more comfortable with him. This is part of educating myself. If I chose not to educate myself during this phase and didn't abide by what was "revealed" to me...that I would consider a sin.
Now if I classify having sex outside of marriage (including same-sex) I have to remember that the mortal man is "an enemy to God. I also have to realize the "natural man" has needs. If I were heterosexual I could say "Hey I can get married & then have sex." Right? But I'm not. So how do I not commit sin and be a sexually satisfied gay male? A very gray area. Well, this is where a committed relationship comes into play. Until Same Sex Marriages become legal in the United States...I guess this is the area where I bring up the Mormons and plural marriages right? LOL.
I was raised to be a "heterosexual male" by my wonderful parents since July 1971 until I left for BYU in June 1984...13 years. For those years, no one ever told me how to be a chaste homosexual male. I can recall my Bishop always asking about masterbation but not about sex with other guys. At the time I would have been totally clueless-even though I felt a closeness to males over females at the time. I do recall my dad, getting gathering my brothers and I in the downstairs family room, getting a dry-erase board and doing a very quick, not very well done sketching and explanation of "The Birds and The Bees" . We all were red-faced and snickering about it. I also remember an ancient film-strip about male/female sex in 6th grade (Ms Nedvad's class). It basically was shadows with a presenter. As kids I remember we thought it was weird. I never attempted "playing around" with anyone as a child or teen. Would have never considered it because that, in my mind would have been a sin.
Now, perhaps there is literature for parents to teach from for their children who they suspect are gay since 3% of males aged 15-19 have had anal sex with another male(1). Well, I was never given any guidance as a child. Perhaps if I had I wouldn't have felt like a "kid in a candy store" as a newly out 18year old male in sexual prime. There was no guidance for me at BYU, in my church (LDS) or anywhere I knew of at the time. So I SINNED...so to speak. I considered 18 and coming out a rebirth after I had my first sexual experience because there was now a new awakening/awareness as a sexual being. Funny though, my experience was an enlightenment...didn't seem dark, dirty, nor did it feel like sinning. More like, WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME THIS COULD FEEL SO GOOD and that I would not feel like that first experience should have classified as a sin.
Back on subject. Based on the way I was taught as a child, then, I shouldn't have sex outside of marriage, right? Well, since gay marriage, in California except for those fortunate 17,0000 same-sex couples who were hitched, is not an option, a committed relationship for me is. So now that's what I should strive for, though, right now I'm in no hurry. Right now I'm also not having sex with anyone, Ok yes, I admit it. LOL. So don't hate on me, K? AND yes I know the last person who I had sex with and if he's reading, he knows who he is too.
-So to rap up this part, until gay marriage is legal..Here are guidelines for me:
-keep the sex in a committed relationship
-learn about STD's and HIV what the risks are.
-Establish my own comfort level of what I will and will not do sexually with another.
-Get tested for STDs/HIV ever 6 months; establish communication with my primary care provider (PCP) because they can be an additional resource of information.
-Trust my friends to help me along my path.
-attend forums, lectures, AIDS Service Organization (ASO) seminars & know who they are in my community/neighbourhood.
-check online resources for updates/alerts..some resources I use are the local gay an lesbian center, Center for Disease Control (CDC) website...and just "Google" or search for what I am looking for.
(NOTE: I'm not saying I'm perfect & the above are always observed, but hey it's a start.)
Now about ADAM's TRANSGRESSION:
Was Adams transgression actually a sin? Hmmmm...
“This was a transgression of the law, but not a sin in the strict sense, for it was something Adam and Eve had to do” (Joseph Fielding Smith, Doctrines of Salvation, 1:115).
So for me SIN...depends on religious law of the day. It is also based on knowledge (hardknocks, reading of religious text, education, q&a, etc) and varying interpretations.
In fact, one of my own ancestors, Bruce R. McConkie,
made comment on this.
Elder Bruce R. McConkie taught that:
“the use of the term transgression lays emphasis on the violation of the law or rule involved, whereas the term sin points up the wilful nature of the disobedience” (Mormon Doctrine, p. 804)
We know Adam wasn't supposed to eat the "fruit" (apple-what I was told as a child) of the Tree of Knowledge---good and evil. BUT had he not...we would not be here...me thinks.
Ok boys and girls...here's where we decide which VERSION of the bible to use...I prefer the 1604 King James I version (finished in 1611)...the one I grew up with as part of "the quad".
1 John 3:4-7
4: Whosoever commmitteth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgressin of the law.
5: And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin.
6: Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
7: Lttle children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness, even as he is righteous.
AND THEN:
Moses 6:53-55 (LDS/Mormon Pearl Of Great Price)
53. And our father Adam spake unto the Lord, and said: Why is it that men must repent and be baptized in water? And the Lord said unto Adam: Behold I have forgiven thee thy transgression in the Garden of Eden.
54. Hence came the saying abroad amoung the people, that the Son of God hath atoned for original guilt, wherein the sins of the parents cannot be answered upon the heads of the children, for they are whole from the foundation of the world.
55. And the Lord spake unto Adam, saying: inasmuch as thy children are conceived in sin, even so when they begin to grow up, sin conceiveth in their hearts, and they taste the biter, that they may know to prize the good.
My basic message in the end is:
SIN is a necessity that we experience...and we learn from these transgressions.
OK I'm done for this one...
"talk amoungst yourselve" LOL.:)
Lele is over and out
SOURCES:
(1) Mosher W, Chandra A, Jones J. Sexual behavior and selected health measures: men and women 15-44 years of age, United States, 2002. Advance Data from Vital and Health Statistics September 15, 2005; Number 362:21-26.